Are straight and gay men able to be friends easier than straight men and straight women? We hear all the time how people feel it's difficult for hetersexual men and women to be good friends with no sexual desire or tension involved. But what about gay men and straight men. Is it easier for them to be friends with no sexual desire or tension than with men and women?
There are so many in-the-closet guys, bisexuals, gays, etc who work together at jobs or go to the same school, etc, with straight guys. I wonder if it's easier for them to sincerely be friends without sexual desires for each other.
If so, why? |
| yeah I have had the worse luck with being friends with straight guys...I'd rather be friends with gay guys or straight women...the homophobia and/or bi-curious attraction isnt there with gay guys and straight women... |
Why does it seem that there's a higher percentage of attractive gay men than straight men? I have several gay friends (all of whom are average or above) and when I go to gay clubs, there are sooo many good looking guys! Both face and body-wise. Meanwhile, most straight men you find at the neighborhood bars/pubs are average or below, "hot" guys are minimal and those can normally pick up any girl so they're not even really worth it. Why does it seem that there are more good-looking gay guys than there are straight? |
Statistically, there are more straight men than there are gay men, so there are way more attractive straight men than there are attractive gay men. As is common with bars the patrons can be average-looking or above average-looking.
You describe several of your gay friends as being average or above (I can only guess you are referring to their looks) and that the gay clubs that you frequent has good-looking guys--face and body-wise. It could be that the gay clubs that you patronize have a "beauty standard," meaning that only patrons who meet a certain standard of beauty (face and body-wise) are admitted into the club, a form of discrimination by the club's management to ensure the club's popularity.
If you do patronize a club that has a standard of beauty for the admittance of its patrons, then you can get the general view that there's seemingly a higher percentage of attractive gay men than straight men. |
If DADT is overturned Will Gay men court Straight men in order to marry them? Gay men court Straight men now. If they get punched out the Straight man goes to jail for a Hate Crime. |
You are an idiot.
I lived in Canada for 5 years (where they had legal gay marriage for a while). Guess what? NOTHING CHANGED!
Gays aren't running around raping straight men, or trying to convert guyren to being gay. There isn't a gay agenda trying to over throw the government, or any of the paranoid delusions some people come up with.
For the most part, they just mind their own business.
They are as screwed up and having the same problems (and joys) as every other married couple. |
Straight men Gone Gay...Confussion? Ok- so I am a recovering alcoholic and I met my neighbor whom is in a program as well. We had a deep discussion a few days ago, We are both married to women. But I find myself very attracted to him we hug and cry. We were both raped by our step fathers.. I just want to make sure this isn't wrong but I want to be with him. I feel he does to but he is the jock type that tries to force these feelings away..But when his wife is gone he is very close with me..Is it wrong for us to pursue these feelings and remain friends. I watch him in the courtyard and I caught him watching me as well. It;s just when his wife is around he seem so distant and like he doesn't know me. When she is gone we are huging and want to kiss I feel it. I don't believe we are gay or straight but we have an emotional tie I can't explain. My wife even said " your gay with him" jokingly cause I think we are. I took the trash out the other morning with my boxers on he was outside leaving for work and didn't look at my face at all just my package. I got stimulated then he left hastily.. My question is ...Is it wrong for me to pursue this.. Can sex be between friends ... I am in love with him but not like a woman...A ne feeling I can not describe..primal ...Is sex as taboo or can it be between friends and show love for them..Not as a mate but friend... |
| Wow...that is pretty hard. Obviously there are some very serious feelings in this relationship that you have with this man. Of course there is the term of friends with benefits, but that doesn't sound like this situation. You have to think about your relationship with him. Is it worth losing your wife? Of course there are the feelings between you two, but what about both of the wives? There feelings are at stake as well. But if you truly feel a connection with this man, I would say pursue it. Not the the extent that could be considered cheating, but enough to see if the connection is established, and not just a fling. And coming from someone in the gay community, are you ready for the persecution if you are caught, or rumored about? These are somethings to think about, but I think you can do it Good luck. |
Is there any difference between when straight or gay men suddenly pull away when things seemed great? Straight men may pull away either because the girl gave him her pussy too fast and thus was too easy, or didn't (she was too hard to get), but gay men usually have sex on the first date. Why would a gay man suddenly pull away after a great week of mutual chemistry (including sex) and seemingly having lots in common? Did he get bored? Did he stop being attracted to the other guy? Is he scared he'll be hurt again like in his recent bad relationship? Is the fact that they live far apart geographically and he assumes that might be an obstacle in the long run? Why would a gay guy that has been in and pursued relationships in the past suddenly pull away from something that seems to be going so well? |
All of those seem like plausible reasons. Why don't you ask him?
Actually, don't ask him because you will probably come off as needy.
If you have already been given the cold-shoulder treatment, or he has told you that it is over, you just need to take time to heal your heart and move on to the next one. He isn't the last man you will like. |
Sex drive - straight men, gay men, bi...? Do all men, straight, gay, and bi, all have relatively around the same amount of sex drive?? does it matter what their orientation is??? or do straight men have more sex drive than gay men, or the opposite?? and is going through puberty different for straight guys compared to gay guys? |
Sex drive is not determined by sexuality, but instead hormone levels and personal preferences. Straight, gay and bi men have all around the same sex drive on average. It does not change depending on your orientation, but instead, like I said, your hormones and your personal preferences. You might meet a straight man one day who prefers little sex and a gay man who prefers a lot, and then the next meet the exact opposite.
Going through puberty is different between the sexualities more from the standpoint of societal pressure than anything biological. The biological processes of puberty are the same, except for the obvious difference that during puberty, when sexual attraction begins to be expressed, straight men will desire girls and gay men will desire other men.
However, it is often more difficult for gay men to go through puberty because of the fact that society does not look very kindly in most areas on homosexuality. For a young budding gay man, the attraction to same sex partners can be a source of depression and shame, because often times, society is telling him that it is wrong or perverted. Depending on his family situation and where he lives, this can be more or less extreme; a very homophobic family will only increase his secret feelings of same and self-revulsion. This causes many young gay men (the same goes for lesbians, as well, but your question addressed men, so) to feel depressed and outcasted because while others can express their liking for the opposite sex, it is considered 'wrong' for him to express his same-sex attraction. |
Is going bald more devastating for gay or straight men? Is going bald more devastating for gay or straight men?
I know it's a bummer for any guy to go bald but do gay men have a harder time accepting it?
What if you shaved your head because of a receding hairline? |
| I'm sure its more devastating for guys who like their hair in general (ignoring their sexuality) |
Straight men dress up better than gay men? As a gay male, I have noticed when I go out with my straight frat brothers, that straight men seem to put a little more time and effort into getting dressed to go out. I have noticed at gay clubs, its almost as if its a contest to see who can wear the tightest shirt, pants, ect. Please tell me I am not the only one that has made this observation and why? |
| no matter what gender or orientation, people are always vain and care just as much about their looks as the next person. |
I'm going to a gay bar for my friends birthday, do straight men have their own toilets? I don't want gay men to look at me peeing. I'm not a homophobe or anything but what I'm thinking is imagine a girl went into the guys toilet in a normal bar? Think of the result! |
| no, there are no separate johns for straight men, you will have to put up with the pawing that goes on in them or just make sure you do your tinkles and ploppies before you go tto the bar. |
How many straight men have gone gay because of bad experiences with women? answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
(just checking) |
None.
If one can actively choose the gender they are sexually attracted to, that would make them bisexual.
One's orientation is not a matter of choice. |