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Aren't guys in this generation more naive and sheltered than ever? The Teen birth rate has been declining and teen sex is down and it seems guys aren't having sex in Middle School like they were 30 years ago.I have been reading rates and teen pregnancy rate continues to decline also teenage sex as it seems guys are postponing sexual activity.Kids today know LESS about sex than ever and 20 years ago you had guys having sex with their own babysitter. | They are not more sheltered, they are becoming more mature & responsible at a younger age.
They are more aware of teenage pregnancy & STD's. They have been given a lot more information to make better decisions. | I need some teen movie recommendations!? something along the lines of these movies:
american beauty
white oleander
thirteen
the babysitters
lost and delirious
speak
etc... teens involving drugs/sex/alcohol/sexuality is pretty much what i'm aiming for i guess | Augusta gone is similar to Thirteen. (Drugs, self harm, smoking, alcohol etc)
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American Beauty
Kidulthood
The Virgin Suicides
Kids
The Basketball Diaries
Requeim for a dream.
Hope I helped. x | Can you recommend any teen romance books? By this I mean possibly some historical romance, fantasy romance.
Sex can be in it but very limited. I want the ones where you'll melt but not absolutely gay dumb ones.
Dont give me ditzy romance where popular girl falls in love with geek or stuff like that.
Also the book must be in first person and from a GIRLS point of view (constant throughout)
Im very very picky of the books I read ><
I did like Pride and Prejudice, and that one historical romance book where the girl is I think a babysitter or something, they fall in love, years pass the guy become blind but they get married (forgot the famous novel's name), Twilight was alright until the fourth book, A great and terrible beauty.
Also one last thing: No books with sex scenes as the cover
:) | A Walk to Remember -if you've seen the movie, one might think it's cliche or ditzy, but it's a story based off the author Nicholas Spark's sister.
A Farewell to Arms by Ernest Hemingway -amazing.
Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald.
Oh and my absolute favorite: WUTHERING HEIGHTS! lol I love that book. | What do you dads think about this? Im doing a psychology paper on teen guys sex with older women. Even though it is illegal guys in society thinks it is okay for teenage guys to have sex with older women. I want to get a fathers opinion on this subject. Although it is a total different situation if a girl has sex with an older guy; seems like a double standard.
Example: a 14 year old boy has sex with his 23 year old baby sitter. What would you think about this if it was your son. Would you give him a high five or go after the babysitter? | There is often a double standard that dates back to the dark ages. However, a 14 yo male is not on the same level emotionally, intellectually, socially, educationally, spiritually, or any other way. Because their brain is still developing, a teen is more vulnerable to influence, control and manipulation from a predatory adult (male or female). They may have adult features but there is still a lengthy maturing process that won't stop until their early 20's.
My 14 yo son may believe it was all his idea and live out his sexual fantasy and even begged for it, but he does not have the adult experience to understand when he's being used or avoid being manipulated. The babysitter is in a position of trust and may believe it was all just fun and games, no harm done (or even that it was benefiicial) but often the damage is not acknowledged until years later. Males in particular are the least likely to recognize they've been 'had' or abused and seek help. Males often feel they must be strong, 'man up' when abused or taught to believe it was a lucky event.
Healthy sex is based on mutual levels of understanding, respect, emotional and intellectual functioning within a similiar age (within 2 years). There's a reason why intergenerational sex is illegal, it does damage.
I would go after the babysitter with both barrells. She is older with better judgement (supposedly) and in control of the situation. She's in a position of trust, she's responsible...even if my guy begged for it. Abuse should never be celebrated nor condoned. | I need a dads opinion on this? Im doing a psychology paper on teen guys sex with older women. Even though it is illegal guys in society thinks it is okay for teenage guys to have sex with older women. I want to get a fathers opinion on this subject. Although it is a total different situation if a girl has sex with an older guy; seems like a double standard.
Example: a 14 year old boy has sex with his 23 year old baby sitter. What would you think about this if it was your son. Would you give him a high five or go after the babysitter? | | For an adult to have sex with a guy is statutory rape, so I would go after the babysitter. | Was i born 50 years to early? Wednesday - October 7, 2009
Teen Sex Trends
Do you think you know what your teens are doing at a school dance or even during the day when you're not around? Think again. A new documentary, Oral Sex is the New Goodnight Kiss, gives you an eye-opening and shocking glimpse into the world of teens and sex — a world your daughter, neighbor or babysitter may be participating in. Middle class girls are trading sex for money, drugs, luxury goods and popularity. It's not only boys you need to warn your daughters about. Hear a firsthand account and learn why other girls may be the biggest threat to your guy. And, you'll be shocked to learn what guys are doing at prom — right in front of their teachers. If you're a parent, tune in to learn how to talk to your daughters about sex and protect them from falling into this trap. | | theres a lot teenagers on yahoo now | Do you like the beginning of my teen NOVEL? Feedback please?!? Prologue:
When Bella Beckham was a little girl, she would sing along on her mini plastic tape recorder to Michael Jackson and Britney Spears hits and get twirled in the air in daddy’s arms to the sounds of the Rolling Stones and the Beatles. The precocious guy would dance around the table at fancy Upper West Side restaurants using the breadsticks as a baton. And, she would innocently greet a new babysitter in nothing but her birthday suit.
Bella possessed willful determination, not to mention songwriting and vocal talent and larger-than-life charisma, which led to an astonishing year for the saucer-eyed, raven-haired pop starlet, who, with her cheeky sense of humor and sexy pin-up girl style, set new standards for the entertainment industry. It was no wonder that little girl from a crazy Italian New York family, turned into the exhibitionist, multi-talented singer-songwriter with a flair for theatrics and entertainment: Bella Beckham.
***
Bombshells. Sex kittens. Pin-up girls. In Hollywood, such creatures would always be in plentiful supply. But just about once in a generation, a bona fide sex symbol would come along to stand out from the pack: some beautiful sex-bomb goddess whose mere photograph was enough to flutter the collective pulse and whose appearance on a red carpet caused both flashbulbs and eyes to pop. Such women were synonymous with the S-word because they made men think impure thoughts rather than associate them with any particular movie role, product or publicist-constructed persona. Every era got the sex symbol it deserved, but nobody expected a literature-devouring teenager from a small and utterly unknown town to become the newest "it" girl to ascend into the vaunted pantheon of sex-bomb goddesses.
Chapter 1: California Dreaming
Life can be hard
Or life can be great,
It depends on your choices
And what lies in your fate.
You can be loyal and caring,
Live life with laughter and love,
And do just what is wanted
From the heavens looking out from above.
Or you could be different,
Rebellious, regretful, and sly,
Hurting yourself and others
When you cheat and lie.
It’s all up to you
And the decisions you make,
What you do with your time
And the friends that you take.
So now I hope as you go
Through life knowing this,
You make the right choices
And don’t regret what you miss.
Bella Beckham stopped writing. She stared at the last line she had written and then shook her head, pen hovering over the small book with the blue velvet cover. Then, with a sudden gesture, she lifted her head and threw her pen and book at the big bay window, where they bounced off harmlessly and landed on the upholstered window seat in her luxurious new Bentley Continental. When she was fifteen she knew exactly what she wanted. She had wanted the same at twelve. Everything. But now she had made up her mind how to go about attaining it. She was going to trade on her looks, her best and perhaps only talent as far as she was concerned. She thought she could act, or at least learn how. It had to be easier than algebra, or English literature, or any of those other dreary classes in school. But one way or another, she was going to be a star. And she was going to make it on her own.
*** | | Personally, I really like it so far, and I usually really dislike realistic fiction. But yeah, I do think the name is a little too much. Bella Beckham isn't really a name you'd hear a big star have. And then the sight of the name Bella did remind me of Twilight, which I'm sure other teens are going to think of, too. But I think you could get by with it if you had to. And I have a question: Is she already a star or does the story begin with her pre-fame? | Do you like the beginning of my TEEN NOVEL? FEEDBACK please!? Prologue:
Bombshells. Sex kittens. Pin-up girls. In Hollywood, such creatures would always be in plentiful supply. But just about once in a generation, a bona fide sex symbol would come along to stand out from the pack: some beautiful sex-bomb goddess whose mere photograph was enough to flutter the collective pulse and whose appearance on a red carpet caused both flashbulbs and eyes to pop. Such women were synonymous with the S-word because they made men think impure thoughts rather than associate them with any particular movie role, product or publicist-constructed persona. Every era got the sex symbol it deserved, but nobody expected a literature-devouring teenager from a small and utterly unknown town to become the newest "it" girl to ascend into the vaunted pantheon of sex-bomb goddesses.
Chapter 1: California Dreaming
Life can be hard
Or life can be great,
It depends on your choices
And what lies in your fate.
You can be loyal and caring,
Live life with laughter and love,
And do just what is wanted
From the heavens looking out from above.
Or you could be different,
Rebellious, regretful, and sly,
Hurting yourself and others
When you cheat and lie.
It’s all up to you
And the decisions you make,
What you do with your time
And the friends that you take.
So now I hope as you go
Through life knowing this,
You make the right choices
And don’t regret what you miss.
Bella Beckham stopped writing. She stared at the last line she had written and then shook her head, pen hovering over the small book with the blue velvet cover. Then, with a sudden gesture, she lifted her head and threw her pen and book at the big bay window, where they bounced off harmlessly and landed on the upholstered window seat in her English classroom. When she was fifteen she knew exactly what she wanted. She had wanted the same at twelve. Everything. But now she had made up her mind how to go about attaining it. She was going to trade on her looks, her best and perhaps only talent as far as she was concerned. She thought she could act, or at least learn how. It had to be easier than algebra, or English lit, or any of those other dreary classes in school. But one way or another, she was going to be a star. And she was going to make it on her own.
When Bella Beckham was a little girl, she would sing along on her mini plastic tape recorder to Michael Jackson and Britney Spears hits and get twirled in the air in daddy’s arms to the sounds of the Rolling Stones and the Beatles. The precocious guy would dance around the table at fancy Upper West Side restaurants using the breadsticks as a baton. And, she would innocently greet a new babysitter in nothing but her birthday suit.
Bella possessed willful determination, not to mention songwriting and vocal talent and larger-than-life charisma, which led her to become a saucer-eyed, raven-haired pop starlet, who, with her cheeky sense of humor and sexy pin-up girl style, would set new standards for the entertainment industry. It was no wonder that little girl from a crazy Italian New York family, eventually turned into the exhibitionist, multi-talented singer-songwriter with a flair for theatrics and entertainment: Bella Beckham.
*** | | I like it | Attn all parents.....well worth looking at if you have young teens or guys in high school? Do you think you know what your teens are doing at a school dance or even during the day when you're not around? Think again. A new documentary, Oral Sex is the New Goodnight Kiss, gives you an eye-opening and shocking glimpse into the world of teens and sex — a world your daughter, neighbor or babysitter may be participating in. Middle class girls are trading sex for money, drugs, luxury goods and popularity. It's not only boys you need to warn your daughters about. Hear a firsthand account and learn why other girls may be the biggest threat to your guy. And, you'll be shocked to learn what guys are doing at prom — right in front of their teachers. If you're a parent, tune in to learn how to talk to your daughters about sex and protect them from falling into this trap. | Unfortunately, many parents choose to remain blind to this. I post all the time about educating our guyren about this stuff, and I get thumbs down and hate mail for it.. And the sad thing, is that it starts FAR earlier than high school.
I remember trying to tell my mom stuff like that was going on when I was in 7th grade.... Im almost 26 now. They didnt believe me, thought I was lieing, thought no way guys that age would be in to that stuff. People would rather be blind and ignore the problem rather than do something about it. | When a guy is molested do they really need therapy in their adulthood? Isn't prayer enough? I was molested by my babysitters brother who was a teen at the time and I don't reached Kindergarten yet. Everyday my babysitter would pick me up from school and take me to her house and when I'd get there one of her brothers (predator) was be so mean to me for the first few hours I was there. After a while he would play tag with me and chase me into the kitchen or anywhere where no one else was and pull out his privates and rub it all over me. I knew it was wrong or at least I thought it was wrong. I just know it seemed wrong. Anyhow this would happen on a daily basis and it got to the point where I would end up playing the same game with his younger brother who would've been his teens in a few years. I would chase his younger brother and try to pull out his privates and the younger brother would always reject me. Now my mother was working two jobs to support the family so I never blamed her and I never told her anything because I knew if I did it would cause a problem. A friend of mine in my adulthood asked me what could my mother have done differently back then that I feel would've made me feel comfortable enough to tell her. I don't think my mother could have done anything more than what she did do. I mean my mother taught me all of right from wrong and she was protective of me. My mother is a single parent and my father, although I know of him, I've never met him before. As a 26 yr old adult I can say that I turned out pretty darn well however, my relationships, although long-term have never really been successful. I can think of a many occassions where sex I felt would diffuse situations, I associated sex and love also even though I know the two aren't the same. I used to feel like the guys that I was with would only really want me for sexual reasons. I'm not promiscuous but in my relationships I did feel that sex is what kept the man around for a longer period of time, and I felt that's what kept me around longer than I needed to be in a relationship. At first I blamed my first long term boyfriend of 6 years (ages 13-19) because he impressed a lot of brainwashing ideals in my head. Then I started to blame the fact that my brother and my father weren't in my life to protect me and to show me the male perspective as to why I attract the same type of men or why I'm attracted to the same type of men. I used to think that it was because of my father's absence why my esteem although I put up a great front hasn't always been so high. I happen to tell my best friend about my guyhood past and she said that my whole life makes sense to her now...The things I've done and do is due to my guyhood past she said....I never thought of it that way. I hate to even use that **** as a crutch. As an adult I find myself clinging to those who really serve no positive purpose in my life and those who do, I don't take them seriously and end up pushing them away or keeping them at a distance. The crazy thing is I lived in the same apartment building in Brooklyn for 26 years and I see the family that did this to me every single day. I used to be cool with them up until last year. I would see the predator on a daily basis and I would wonder if he remembers what he did to me but I never asked. He has a daughter too and I worry for her sometimes. He unfortunately isn't the only pervert in the family. His father is one too. Now this is the part that confuses me. I'm a very sexual person. I would play certain games that I though a lot of people do just for fun, and then tell my friends and laugh about it. For instance, the window of my apt faces the front of my building and I'd see the predators father outside my window and somehow I'd get his attention and I would flash him and tell my friends about it. We'd all joke about it. But when I would walk outside and I'd see him he would repulse me so bad because I'm like you known me since I was a baby, how could u be so enticed? I guess because I'm a woman now. But that's not it. This man sometimes fixes things in my apartment as he's known my family for so long and the superintendent of the building was never around when we needed him. One day I called him up to fix something in my apt. and I wore some short shorts that still covered what needed to be covered. I was laying on my bed watching tv and he would find little reasons for coming into my room. One instance he came in my room and grabbed my leg and whispered some perverse things in my ear and I can't really describe how I felt. I wanted to scream and get upset but didn't, I became really quiet like I was that little girl that his son used to molest. He performed oral sex on me and I let him without looking at him and at that point I felt disgusted with myself but at the same time I felt I have to tell my friends, this **** is crazy. I became really mute throughout the whole thing. I looked uncomfortable I felt uncomfortable but the act continued. He offered me money after that and | Whether someone molested in guyhood needs therapy as an adult depends on several factors, including (but not limited to, as they say), the duration of the abuse (one or two episodes vs. months and years), intensity (mild fondling vs. violent rape), the predator's secrecy strategy (You're so special" vs. "If you tell, no one will believe you." vs. "If you tell, I'll kill you and your family), and most importantly, what the victim thinks about it. You have outlined in your question a number of ways in which this experience has affected you: problems in relationships, some sexual difficulties, and most seriously, that the abuse is continuing and you feel helpless to stop it.
You ask if prayer isn't enough. I would think you have been praying about this for some time, and your life is still seriously affected. I think it is more than time for you to seriously go to therapy. There are many places offering therapy on a sliding scale fee in Brooklyn. There may well be special programs for survivors of sexual abuse which cost little to nothing. Please try therapy; you can be helped. |
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